Who I Am (Zin)

I’m the type of person that loves unconditionally. I’m the type of person that likes a hand at the small of my back – someone who appreciates touch and needs it to feel complete and loved.

I’m the kind of person who jumps into things and loves to experience the newness of a situation. Really comes alive.

I’m the kind of person that opens herself to love and connection on an energetic level with people.

I’m the kind of person that, when in love, will cyber-stalk you and send texts all day and just generally crave your presence. But still understand if you’re busy. If you are busy – when you are spending time with me (either in person or afar), I like you to make up for lost time. Really pour it on. ;)

I give, in all my relationships – friendly or romantic. And I expect that reciprocated.

I get along with most everyone.

I hate to be late places.

I love travel and other cultures, and have always wanted to live (even for a short time) in another country.

Other languages are fascinating to me, and one day I’d love to be bi-lingual.

I’m the kind of person that can be in love with more than one person. Really and truly. Sometimes I can’t, or won’t, act on it – for various reasons – but the love is there. And I don’t know how to explain that to purely monogamous people.

Yes, I didn’t count myself as one of the monogamous – but nor do I feel uber-comfortable committing myself to the ranks of the polyamorous either. I’m just me.

The truth is, I think I feel most comfortable devoting myself to one. Spending that emotional energy and love on one man. Planning for the future and building something with that one man. But I like having the flexibility and freedom to experience the excitement of a second relationship --- a part-time one. One that wouldn’t take away from my devoted long-term relationship – but one that I added to it. Peripherally.

I’ve found that mostly this desire to connect with an additional person stems from a need-based reality.

If a need of mine is not being met, then I seek out a way for it to be met. First with my partner, of course, and then from my circle of friends – or trying a new hobby on for size (though this may be a form of distraction rather than trying to fill an unmet need) – and then, if a loss is still felt, then I seek for it in an additional relationship.

That has been my only experience with “polyamory.”

But it sounds right to me.

If you know me, is this how you experience me, too? Do you experience me differently?

And if you don't know me, ... "Who are you?"